2011 Dec 19 深夜，读到英国诗人 William Ernest Henley 的
"I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul."
不禁联想起年轻时很喜欢的一句话：“我命由我不由天” （后来才知道出自道教，修炼用语，指通过一定的方式和方法，对精神和肉体进行自我控制）
当时喜欢这句话，抱持的是一种对抗性的思维，不愿意被命运安排，觉得这句话完全符合我倔强好胜的性格，难免夹杂着年少狂妄的一股“英雄气概”。经过这么多年，现在再看这句话，则是感受到一种创造性的心态。
是的，人可以克服弱点、过自己的关，从而找到自己人生的定位，并了解自己独特的使命。
改变的动力不是与命运赌气，而是源于自我提升的意愿。
通过不断学习与实践，知道哪些原则要坚定、哪些方法要调整。将无谓的抗拒放下，去体会生命的包容性。
更进一步，一切从“我”开始。不需要怨天尤人，而是通过“我”的努力，走出自己的路：
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi.
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Thursday, September 29, 2011
Vision, passion, mission, direction... Action!
Vision, passion, mission, direction... Action!
Keep taking action & you will gain momentum. Attended PIP, REIT, VIF, MIP, MMI, EPP, plus MIPA this coming weekend, all done within 12 months, in fact the last 6 will be completed within 5 months. Plus implemented and integrated FlyLady and Jack Canfield systems into my own life program. How was it possible? Keep taking action: Learn and do, then repeat.
To me, "Human" stands for: "how u make appropriate navigation" in your ocean of life. We design our lives. Set sail now, ahoy!
Keep taking action & you will gain momentum. Attended PIP, REIT, VIF, MIP, MMI, EPP, plus MIPA this coming weekend, all done within 12 months, in fact the last 6 will be completed within 5 months. Plus implemented and integrated FlyLady and Jack Canfield systems into my own life program. How was it possible? Keep taking action: Learn and do, then repeat.
To me, "Human" stands for: "how u make appropriate navigation" in your ocean of life. We design our lives. Set sail now, ahoy!
Monday, September 19, 2011
Find that someone...
There's someone who always follow you wherever you decide to go, stay with you through thick and thin, embrace you in joy or sorrow, cheer you on to the next lap, have confidence in your potential, celebrate your successes, treat you the way you want to be treated ...
Yes that's your inner self.
I've realised that love, peace, strength, happiness emanates from a source within. Be grateful if you're blessed with
wonderful family, relatives and friends. But realise that we do not have to seek fulfilment from others. We are fully capable of loving ourselves, supporting others, choosing the mood we want, deciding on the path to take, and leading a life of our choice.
Yes that's your inner self.
I've realised that love, peace, strength, happiness emanates from a source within. Be grateful if you're blessed with
wonderful family, relatives and friends. But realise that we do not have to seek fulfilment from others. We are fully capable of loving ourselves, supporting others, choosing the mood we want, deciding on the path to take, and leading a life of our choice.
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Do not be disappointed or discouraged
A record of my recent reflections:
Anything that's beyond your control, accept it first. If the outcome of an event is not what you like, accept it. If someone's behaviour has hurt you, accept it. If you tried you best but did not do as well as you have hoped, accept it.
Only then can you move on to the more important stuff: discovering your true self.
Why you feel so deeply about something is a message to you. Every single time. In it you can find your unique life purpose and value system. You become aware of the next step you have to take. This can only be realised if your state of mind allows it.
Do not be disappointed or discouraged. Have faith. Everything happens for a reason. When life takes something away from you, it's always to give you something better in the future. This has been proven time and again.
So just keep smiling. I recently realised I always smile at my reflection in the mirror every morning. It's a sign of gratitude for whatever life has or has not given me. It's love for myself for just being me. The more I smile, the more blessed I become. It's true, try it for yourself if you have not done it before.
Sunday, August 7, 2011
把辛苦转化为幸福
我们周围都是人，每天的生活离不开跟别人的接触或交流。跟别人相处时，你曾经有过不愉快的经验、不痛快的感觉吗？
我是最不懂得跟人相处的，但是也许因为这样，我比别人有更多的空间去反省、去努力、去提升自己的不足。把自己的想法做个初步的记录，是为了让我更清楚看到自己的心路历程，以鼓励自己继续深化，并且希望起到抛砖引玉的作用。
简单的说，我通过以下的步骤来化解跟别人相处的障碍，把辛苦转化为幸福。
感受他：
首先要从对方的立场去感受他。他为什么这么说这么做？我对于这样的局面有责任吗？是不是我说了什么、做了什么，令对方有这样的反应？也许对方甚至认为他才是“受害者”呢？
就算真的错不在我，也可以体谅对方，他有他自身的弱点。如果他当时没有做得更好，那是因为他没有办法做得更好，没有能力做得更好，甚至不知道应该怎么做才是更好。我自己也是如此，那为什么不能与他感同身受，去包容他呢？
感激他：
是的，要感激他。即使我觉得很无辜很生气，这一步是关键。如果对方是我的亲友，他曾经与我有情的交流与联系，我要感激他曾经为我付出。如果对方是外人，那么我至少可以感激他提供了多一次的机会，让我在待人处事上有进一步的学习和反省。这么做不等于认同对方的言行，也不用委屈求全，而是调整自己的心态，不要让负面的情绪伤害自己。
多想想对方的好，欣赏对方的优点。问自己：我从这件事、这个人身上，学习到什么？生气和埋怨于事无补，黑暗中怎么看得到出路？正面的思维才能让我们看清楚下一步要做什么、学什么。
感化他：
如果对方是我们的亲友甚至后辈，我对他的情，难道不足以让我放下怨气？难道我不希望他也能幸福？
如果我认为他不够好、还可以更好，怎么忍心不提点他？但是如果我跟他处于对立的局面，就没有教育他的立场，失去接引他的机会。
更重要的是以身作则，过自己的关，让他看到怎样才能做得更好，怎样在精神上超越自己，帮助他克服心理上的痛苦挣扎，使他明白生命可以活得更舒畅的关键在于自己。没错，在于自己。把责任归咎于别人等于放弃自己可以进步的机会、漠视自己可以开拓的生命空间。
如果我认为对方的好坏与我毫无关系，或我目前没有能力去感化他，那么也不用急于一时。我们的每一次蜕变何尝不是经历一段时间？即使如此，也还不断再发现许多有待改善的地方。与其把焦点放在改变别人，不如坚持点点滴滴累积自己的修养，提高自己的能力。
每一次辛苦的感觉都是迈向幸福的踏脚石。每一次的不痛快都是生命转化和超越自己的契机。而生活中随处都是学习的机会。
我是最不懂得跟人相处的，但是也许因为这样，我比别人有更多的空间去反省、去努力、去提升自己的不足。把自己的想法做个初步的记录，是为了让我更清楚看到自己的心路历程，以鼓励自己继续深化，并且希望起到抛砖引玉的作用。
简单的说，我通过以下的步骤来化解跟别人相处的障碍，把辛苦转化为幸福。
感受他：
首先要从对方的立场去感受他。他为什么这么说这么做？我对于这样的局面有责任吗？是不是我说了什么、做了什么，令对方有这样的反应？也许对方甚至认为他才是“受害者”呢？
就算真的错不在我，也可以体谅对方，他有他自身的弱点。如果他当时没有做得更好，那是因为他没有办法做得更好，没有能力做得更好，甚至不知道应该怎么做才是更好。我自己也是如此，那为什么不能与他感同身受，去包容他呢？
感激他：
是的，要感激他。即使我觉得很无辜很生气，这一步是关键。如果对方是我的亲友，他曾经与我有情的交流与联系，我要感激他曾经为我付出。如果对方是外人，那么我至少可以感激他提供了多一次的机会，让我在待人处事上有进一步的学习和反省。这么做不等于认同对方的言行，也不用委屈求全，而是调整自己的心态，不要让负面的情绪伤害自己。
多想想对方的好，欣赏对方的优点。问自己：我从这件事、这个人身上，学习到什么？生气和埋怨于事无补，黑暗中怎么看得到出路？正面的思维才能让我们看清楚下一步要做什么、学什么。
感化他：
如果对方是我们的亲友甚至后辈，我对他的情，难道不足以让我放下怨气？难道我不希望他也能幸福？
如果我认为他不够好、还可以更好，怎么忍心不提点他？但是如果我跟他处于对立的局面，就没有教育他的立场，失去接引他的机会。
更重要的是以身作则，过自己的关，让他看到怎样才能做得更好，怎样在精神上超越自己，帮助他克服心理上的痛苦挣扎，使他明白生命可以活得更舒畅的关键在于自己。没错，在于自己。把责任归咎于别人等于放弃自己可以进步的机会、漠视自己可以开拓的生命空间。
如果我认为对方的好坏与我毫无关系，或我目前没有能力去感化他，那么也不用急于一时。我们的每一次蜕变何尝不是经历一段时间？即使如此，也还不断再发现许多有待改善的地方。与其把焦点放在改变别人，不如坚持点点滴滴累积自己的修养，提高自己的能力。
每一次辛苦的感觉都是迈向幸福的踏脚石。每一次的不痛快都是生命转化和超越自己的契机。而生活中随处都是学习的机会。
Thursday, August 4, 2011
我们真的会说话吗？
我们每天都说话，不费吹灰之力。今天反省自己会不会说话。
我们说的每句话，都是在播一颗种子。当我们开口时，说的是支持、鼓励的话，还是批评、责备的话？是恰当的话、还是可有可无的废话？是温暖人心、还是刺伤人的话？
“种瓜得瓜、种豆得豆”，也许是老掉牙的智慧，但当我们仔细看看，周围是瓜还是豆，就该知道自己以前种了什么，以后要种什么吧？
更好的话，要先有警觉。朋友曾提点我：说话前先停三秒钟，想想需不需要说、该怎么说。
说话，是最容易、也是最难的。
我们说的每句话，都是在播一颗种子。当我们开口时，说的是支持、鼓励的话，还是批评、责备的话？是恰当的话、还是可有可无的废话？是温暖人心、还是刺伤人的话？
“种瓜得瓜、种豆得豆”，也许是老掉牙的智慧，但当我们仔细看看，周围是瓜还是豆，就该知道自己以前种了什么，以后要种什么吧？
更好的话，要先有警觉。朋友曾提点我：说话前先停三秒钟，想想需不需要说、该怎么说。
说话，是最容易、也是最难的。
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Motivation from within
How do we achieve self-motivation? Allow me to share my story of waking up before daybreak as an example.
Everyday we have to wake up from our sleep and start our day. Do you have to wake up at a specific time? How easy is it for you to wake up? Do you use an alarm clock? Do you need someone to pull you out of bed?
What is your reason for waking up at that particular time? If you experience difficulty in waking up, there could be some very fundamental causes, for example, insufficient hours of restful sleep.
If that is not the case, then it could be a deeper reason. Perhaps you are not motivated to get up. Do you view it as a responsibility or is it your choice to wake up at that hour?
Do you drag yourself out of bed even though you're tired but have to wake up and get things done, for example going to work or attending to your kids? Do you jump out of bed if you have something fun to do, for example on holidays?
To make yourself wake up at a specific time consistently every day, you have to find the meaning or value of doing so. At least I had to.
I love to sleep, and I love the idea and luxury of waking up naturally after a good long sleep. For me, waking up before sunrise was very unappealing & was not necessary. However, after I decided to do so for every school-day, I've been able to persuade myself to continue.
I asked myself: how did I manage to do it? Originally I thought the motivation came from outside, for example, to prepare breakfast for my son so he eats better, to have some time in the morning for chatting and bonding, and not to be late sending him to school. But though meaningful and valid, I realise that those reasons were not my strongest motivation.
Then I saw the deeper cause of my perseverance. It was a challenge to myself, to do something which I've determined to do, to overcome my inner resistance, to achieve a breakthrough in my weak area.
Motivation from within is a more sustainable motivation. I've the freedom to become a better person. If I want to do it, I can do it. I've many mentors and they've all taught me a lot. But ultimately it's my choice. Nobody can motivate me better than myself. This is not meant to be arrogant. In fact, it's my mentors' success if they've inspired me to achieve self-motivation.
Everyday we have to wake up from our sleep and start our day. Do you have to wake up at a specific time? How easy is it for you to wake up? Do you use an alarm clock? Do you need someone to pull you out of bed?
What is your reason for waking up at that particular time? If you experience difficulty in waking up, there could be some very fundamental causes, for example, insufficient hours of restful sleep.
If that is not the case, then it could be a deeper reason. Perhaps you are not motivated to get up. Do you view it as a responsibility or is it your choice to wake up at that hour?
Do you drag yourself out of bed even though you're tired but have to wake up and get things done, for example going to work or attending to your kids? Do you jump out of bed if you have something fun to do, for example on holidays?
To make yourself wake up at a specific time consistently every day, you have to find the meaning or value of doing so. At least I had to.
I love to sleep, and I love the idea and luxury of waking up naturally after a good long sleep. For me, waking up before sunrise was very unappealing & was not necessary. However, after I decided to do so for every school-day, I've been able to persuade myself to continue.
I asked myself: how did I manage to do it? Originally I thought the motivation came from outside, for example, to prepare breakfast for my son so he eats better, to have some time in the morning for chatting and bonding, and not to be late sending him to school. But though meaningful and valid, I realise that those reasons were not my strongest motivation.
Then I saw the deeper cause of my perseverance. It was a challenge to myself, to do something which I've determined to do, to overcome my inner resistance, to achieve a breakthrough in my weak area.
Motivation from within is a more sustainable motivation. I've the freedom to become a better person. If I want to do it, I can do it. I've many mentors and they've all taught me a lot. But ultimately it's my choice. Nobody can motivate me better than myself. This is not meant to be arrogant. In fact, it's my mentors' success if they've inspired me to achieve self-motivation.
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
情人眼里出西施，儿子眼里出厨师
妈妈煮了一锅杂菜鸡汤，儿子最后一个吃饭，看了看，问道：“我可以吃完这整锅吗？”
妈妈：“可以呀，不过你不用先试一试味道吗？”
儿子：“是你煮的叻，当然不用啦。”
妈妈：“喂，这句话可以有两个意思喔：
1）是你煮的，当然好味道，不用试了；
2）是你煮的，当然不好吃，不用试了。”
儿子被逗笑了，回道：“那我拿完整锅，你说呢？”
妈妈也被逗笑了。
简单的生活，窝心的母子情。
或者说，情人眼里出西施，儿子眼里出厨师，哈哈哈。
妈妈：“可以呀，不过你不用先试一试味道吗？”
儿子：“是你煮的叻，当然不用啦。”
妈妈：“喂，这句话可以有两个意思喔：
1）是你煮的，当然好味道，不用试了；
2）是你煮的，当然不好吃，不用试了。”
儿子被逗笑了，回道：“那我拿完整锅，你说呢？”
妈妈也被逗笑了。
简单的生活，窝心的母子情。
或者说，情人眼里出西施，儿子眼里出厨师，哈哈哈。
Saturday, July 9, 2011
Our life fuel
went for a parenting talk. Good sharing of experiences & insights from the speaker Edmund Wong. I was thinking-
Are we putting as much efforts in ourselves as our cars?
Our car has an indicator for fuel level. Once we see it's low, we are reminded to top up. When it's time to be serviced & maintained, we send it to the workshop.
But we hv no visible indicator for our competence or wisdom level, in various areas of our life. We may not be doing things the best way we know. There may be things we "know" but not putting into practice. Our energy gets depleted.
Which is why we should actively seek positive input & build positive habits. Learn something in our area of interest. "Top up" our life fuel.
Are we putting as much efforts in ourselves as our cars?
Our car has an indicator for fuel level. Once we see it's low, we are reminded to top up. When it's time to be serviced & maintained, we send it to the workshop.
But we hv no visible indicator for our competence or wisdom level, in various areas of our life. We may not be doing things the best way we know. There may be things we "know" but not putting into practice. Our energy gets depleted.
Which is why we should actively seek positive input & build positive habits. Learn something in our area of interest. "Top up" our life fuel.
Saturday, July 2, 2011
Thursday, June 23, 2011
前所未有的头痛，前所未有的感动
昨天晚上突然头痛欲裂，两岁半的女儿看我手扶额头、紧缩眉头，柔声说：“来，我帮你按摩，不痛了、不痛了....”。然后轻轻摩擦她的两只小手，再温柔地按在我的额头上，再重复...
幸福。感动。
幸福。感动。
Saturday, June 4, 2011
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Political awakening?
Several of my younger friends have spoken of their own "political awakening" in this year's General Election. I first had my "political awakening" in the 2006 elections, and even wrote in to our local Chinese newspaper Lian He Zao Bao, titled ≪大选之后的联想≫.
However I now think it's more aptly termed "heart awakening" instead. It's good that this election has provided a trigger for many people to take time from our busy schedules, to pause, see, feel and reflect upon what's really important in our lives and the lives of fellow Singaporeans. This already transcends political views because I see many people have this same "heart" & compassion, be they supporters of the ruling party or the opposition. It's heart-warming.
Did the political party you support score a "victory" or "defeat" in this year's election? No matter what, tomorrow is a new day. We may not be politicians, but we can each do our part for our country, our home, ourselves. What plans do you have? What steps are you going to take?
With consistent actions and efforts, our "awakening" moments will lead to positive impacts on areas we want to improve.
However I now think it's more aptly termed "heart awakening" instead. It's good that this election has provided a trigger for many people to take time from our busy schedules, to pause, see, feel and reflect upon what's really important in our lives and the lives of fellow Singaporeans. This already transcends political views because I see many people have this same "heart" & compassion, be they supporters of the ruling party or the opposition. It's heart-warming.
Did the political party you support score a "victory" or "defeat" in this year's election? No matter what, tomorrow is a new day. We may not be politicians, but we can each do our part for our country, our home, ourselves. What plans do you have? What steps are you going to take?
With consistent actions and efforts, our "awakening" moments will lead to positive impacts on areas we want to improve.
Friday, May 6, 2011
我们的执政党是好政府吗？
什么样的政府才是好政府？
≪管子•治国篇≫说：凡治国之道，必先富民。
≪论语•子路篇第十三≫，
子适卫，冉有仆。子曰：“庶矣哉！”
冉有曰：“既庶矣，又何加焉？”曰：“富之。”
曰：“既富矣，又何加焉？”曰：“教之。”
可见民富之后须要“教之”。
而≪左傳·桓二年≫说：政以正民。
政府应该领导人民走正道。
新加坡政府是好政府吗？老实说，我生于这个时代，身处这个国家，有许多值得感激感恩的人事物。年纪越大，就越感恩老一辈的政治人物，在艰难的环境中，勤勤恳恳地付出，城市规划及公共设施都看到他们付出的心血。生于新加坡，让我和孩子们有受教育的机会，有衣食无缺的生活，有卫生安全的社区，有许多免费的公园，有收藏丰富的图书馆。
那我有对政府不满的地方吗？有不如意的经历吗？当然有。只提一项切身遭遇的话，就是2010年家里淹水。我当然觉得不可思议，新加坡怎么可以发生这种事？就像许多人质问，生活费医疗费交通费、物价屋价拥车价等等。但是平心静气想想，这些难道全是执政党的错？
我们的祖先千里迢迢来南洋落地生根，结果新加坡居然能从渔村发展成今天的繁华都市，靠的是什么？当时环境不恶劣吗？生活不辛苦吗？除了安定的生活，我们还要求什么？
我们要清楚，我们的不满，是对生活累积了怨气，还是政府真的没有能力？建国45年，新加坡的进步有目共睹，但为何这次大选，有这么多反对党派出这么多人竞选？有这么多针对执政党的批评及埋怨？有这么多的不满和负面情绪？
人非圣贤，孰能无过？新加坡政府，或者说执政党，执政多年，当然有许多犯错的例子，要批评及挑毛病也不难，但是换了别人做就不会犯错吗？就能构造完美的体系和制度吗？世界上哪里有乌托邦？
新加坡有许多政治人物，从政几年后就迅速老化，他们呕心沥血的努力，也许我们看不到，但他们的白发明显增多，反映了什么？因此对于大多数的执政党及反对党候选人，我是敬佩的，至少他们愿意站出来承担。而且政治绝对是吃力不讨好的工作，做得好似乎是应该的，一旦有什么行差踏错，马上面对四面八方的压力。无论是执政党还是反对党，都是新加坡人，都想为新加坡作出贡献。但是解决问题除了要有心，还要有眼光有能力，还要实际行动把计划落实。
目前是大选时刻，老是听到候选人呼吁大家要谨慎抉择，谁能与我们并肩，面对未来的挑战。好的政府不会凭空诞生，而执政党过去几十年的表现，虽然有褒有贬，但是我觉得，他们已经在能力所及之处，做到他们认为最好的决策。
长远来说，好政府应该做到将人民的品格素质整体提高，社会风气好，这才是根本。
大选的“输赢”结果不是最重要的，我们的心态才是。无论谁当选，今天面对的所有问题不会马上消失，也没有人能保证从此不会发生新问题。
这次大选，让我更清楚，自己要尽本分，坚持每天的学习及行动。我们的未来，下一代的未来，掌握在我们手里，不单只是手中那一张选票，而是每天踏出的那一步。千里之行，始于足下。你每天学什么，说什么，做什么，才是直接影响你的未来。
≪管子•治国篇≫说：凡治国之道，必先富民。
≪论语•子路篇第十三≫，
子适卫，冉有仆。子曰：“庶矣哉！”
冉有曰：“既庶矣，又何加焉？”曰：“富之。”
曰：“既富矣，又何加焉？”曰：“教之。”
可见民富之后须要“教之”。
而≪左傳·桓二年≫说：政以正民。
政府应该领导人民走正道。
新加坡政府是好政府吗？老实说，我生于这个时代，身处这个国家，有许多值得感激感恩的人事物。年纪越大，就越感恩老一辈的政治人物，在艰难的环境中，勤勤恳恳地付出，城市规划及公共设施都看到他们付出的心血。生于新加坡，让我和孩子们有受教育的机会，有衣食无缺的生活，有卫生安全的社区，有许多免费的公园，有收藏丰富的图书馆。
那我有对政府不满的地方吗？有不如意的经历吗？当然有。只提一项切身遭遇的话，就是2010年家里淹水。我当然觉得不可思议，新加坡怎么可以发生这种事？就像许多人质问，生活费医疗费交通费、物价屋价拥车价等等。但是平心静气想想，这些难道全是执政党的错？
我们的祖先千里迢迢来南洋落地生根，结果新加坡居然能从渔村发展成今天的繁华都市，靠的是什么？当时环境不恶劣吗？生活不辛苦吗？除了安定的生活，我们还要求什么？
我们要清楚，我们的不满，是对生活累积了怨气，还是政府真的没有能力？建国45年，新加坡的进步有目共睹，但为何这次大选，有这么多反对党派出这么多人竞选？有这么多针对执政党的批评及埋怨？有这么多的不满和负面情绪？
人非圣贤，孰能无过？新加坡政府，或者说执政党，执政多年，当然有许多犯错的例子，要批评及挑毛病也不难，但是换了别人做就不会犯错吗？就能构造完美的体系和制度吗？世界上哪里有乌托邦？
新加坡有许多政治人物，从政几年后就迅速老化，他们呕心沥血的努力，也许我们看不到，但他们的白发明显增多，反映了什么？因此对于大多数的执政党及反对党候选人，我是敬佩的，至少他们愿意站出来承担。而且政治绝对是吃力不讨好的工作，做得好似乎是应该的，一旦有什么行差踏错，马上面对四面八方的压力。无论是执政党还是反对党，都是新加坡人，都想为新加坡作出贡献。但是解决问题除了要有心，还要有眼光有能力，还要实际行动把计划落实。
目前是大选时刻，老是听到候选人呼吁大家要谨慎抉择，谁能与我们并肩，面对未来的挑战。好的政府不会凭空诞生，而执政党过去几十年的表现，虽然有褒有贬，但是我觉得，他们已经在能力所及之处，做到他们认为最好的决策。
长远来说，好政府应该做到将人民的品格素质整体提高，社会风气好，这才是根本。
大选的“输赢”结果不是最重要的，我们的心态才是。无论谁当选，今天面对的所有问题不会马上消失，也没有人能保证从此不会发生新问题。
这次大选，让我更清楚，自己要尽本分，坚持每天的学习及行动。我们的未来，下一代的未来，掌握在我们手里，不单只是手中那一张选票，而是每天踏出的那一步。千里之行，始于足下。你每天学什么，说什么，做什么，才是直接影响你的未来。
投票有用吗？
你的前途要委托给谁？
试问，如果须要通过暴力（掌掴）来解决问题，那我们的修养在哪里？能力在哪里？
同样的，如果须要通过建赌场来解决问题，那我们的眼光在哪里？ 价值在哪里？
而如果光靠喊口号煽动改革，那历史上已有许多前车之鉴，譬如目前销声匿迹的“吾尔开溜”。
有理想是好的，为民请命是好的，但是光靠投票给你的“代表”有用吗？
如果我们期待政府解决所有民生问题，他们将疲于奔命，那大方向及策略性的政策，怎么办？
我有一位富豪朋友，受教育不多，却能在事业及经济上取得成功，所以很感激新加坡的制度与环境。一向来他捐助的都是外国人，这次大选，让他发现其实我们国家也有许多非常需要帮助的人，因此发愿要从身边做起，回馈社会，号召有心人一起帮助新加坡有需要的人。
这样从民间发起的互助精神和力量，不是更好吗？每个人在自己的能力范围内多做一点，能做多少是多少，而不单是把责任委托给“代表”，或是埋怨政府照顾不周。
我们对政府及各政党有诸多的批评、要求和期许，但是否也该回过头来，看看我们自己能做些什么？如果我们自己能自强不息，自立而立人，自达而达人，下一代的希望就在我们身上。
理想世界在我们心里，也在我们手里，与其等待政府改变世界，何不靠自己的力量，一砖一瓦把它建造出来？
试问，如果须要通过暴力（掌掴）来解决问题，那我们的修养在哪里？能力在哪里？
同样的，如果须要通过建赌场来解决问题，那我们的眼光在哪里？ 价值在哪里？
而如果光靠喊口号煽动改革，那历史上已有许多前车之鉴，譬如目前销声匿迹的“吾尔开溜”。
有理想是好的，为民请命是好的，但是光靠投票给你的“代表”有用吗？
如果我们期待政府解决所有民生问题，他们将疲于奔命，那大方向及策略性的政策，怎么办？
我有一位富豪朋友，受教育不多，却能在事业及经济上取得成功，所以很感激新加坡的制度与环境。一向来他捐助的都是外国人，这次大选，让他发现其实我们国家也有许多非常需要帮助的人，因此发愿要从身边做起，回馈社会，号召有心人一起帮助新加坡有需要的人。
这样从民间发起的互助精神和力量，不是更好吗？每个人在自己的能力范围内多做一点，能做多少是多少，而不单是把责任委托给“代表”，或是埋怨政府照顾不周。
我们对政府及各政党有诸多的批评、要求和期许，但是否也该回过头来，看看我们自己能做些什么？如果我们自己能自强不息，自立而立人，自达而达人，下一代的希望就在我们身上。
理想世界在我们心里，也在我们手里，与其等待政府改变世界，何不靠自己的力量，一砖一瓦把它建造出来？
Friday, February 11, 2011
一转眼孩子就大了
小孩子长大得真快。
儿子小时候，带他猜灯谜，通常要给他暗示、引导他，前两天带他去‘春到河畔’灯谜射虎台，他已经可以自己猜到了。
女儿才刚两岁，以前看照片，只懂得说里面的人物是谁，现在已经会加上其他评语。例如一张在酒店里拍的，她说：＂柔柔，在床上，看电视＂，还有一张旧照片，居然跟我们说那是她＂小时候＂，不禁莞尔。
儿子小时候，带他猜灯谜，通常要给他暗示、引导他，前两天带他去‘春到河畔’灯谜射虎台，他已经可以自己猜到了。
女儿才刚两岁，以前看照片，只懂得说里面的人物是谁，现在已经会加上其他评语。例如一张在酒店里拍的，她说：＂柔柔，在床上，看电视＂，还有一张旧照片，居然跟我们说那是她＂小时候＂，不禁莞尔。
Thursday, February 10, 2011
他是谁？
一般人对陌生人也许比对待家人客气，可是在马路上却通常不是这样。驾车的人，可能多少碰过，令自己或对方感到烦躁、愤怒、看不顺眼的情况。如果那个我们认为乱过马路的行人、危险驾驶的人、没礼貌的人、没公德心的人，刚好是我们的家人、亲戚或朋友，我们是不是会多点包容？多点耐心？多点礼让？用这样的心态驾车，果然平和了许多。
Found this draft written by me on 2008 Aug 7, for my "teach-my-child" blog. Couldn't help chuckling. It's true. Once we pass the age of 40 (or perhaps 10, 20, 30, 50, 70 too?), we slowly evolve. The caterpillar turning into a butterfly, then lay eggs, hatch into caterpillars, evolve into butterflies again, and again. Life is amazing. My current stage? At ease, at peace. Most of the time. Especially when asleep ;-)
Well, here's the "masterpiece" which I didn't complete & don't intend to now. It's a snapshot of my thoughts at that point in time.
Title: Why I Want To Teach My Child
The reasons are obvious.
Main reason being a love for this child & a responsibility to nurture him into an upright person who will not only survive in this world, but able to make contributions to it as well.
And not only for him to enjoy harmonious relationships with his family, but also to be able to interact with his elders & peers, relatives & friends, and be in harmony with this world, whether himself, other humans or nature.
In short, I want to provide him with the opportunity & means to do the above, so that he can live an honorable & memorable life.
Next comes the question of what I should teach him, and how to go about doing it.
Well, here's the "masterpiece" which I didn't complete & don't intend to now. It's a snapshot of my thoughts at that point in time.
Title: Why I Want To Teach My Child
The reasons are obvious.
Main reason being a love for this child & a responsibility to nurture him into an upright person who will not only survive in this world, but able to make contributions to it as well.
And not only for him to enjoy harmonious relationships with his family, but also to be able to interact with his elders & peers, relatives & friends, and be in harmony with this world, whether himself, other humans or nature.
In short, I want to provide him with the opportunity & means to do the above, so that he can live an honorable & memorable life.
Next comes the question of what I should teach him, and how to go about doing it.
Friday, January 21, 2011
翻译笑话
以前听儿子说过一个笑话：＂小心落水＂有人翻译成"fall into the water carefully"。问他＂来也匆匆，去也冲冲＂怎么翻译，他居然说"come also fast fast, go also flush flush".
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